Who do you spend time with? How do they make you who you are?

James Altucher calls this your ‘scene.’ As Jim Rohn put it, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. As my dad told me once as a kid, “Ryan, you become like your friends.”

Or as Goethe famously said it better and earlier (about 170 years before any of them), “Tell me with whom you consort with and I will tell you who you are.” And before him, Seneca wrote to a friend:

Choose someone whose way of life as well as words, and whose very face as mirroring the character that lies behind it, have won your approval. Be always pointing him out to yourself either as your guardian or as your model. There is a need, in my view, for someone as a standard against which our characters can measure themselves. Without a ruler to do it against you won’t make crooked straight

-Ryan Holiday

I’ve written a lot about being the part before you are it as inspired by Coach Jen.

I work with the coaches, with myself, with boxers and clients and to reach the unimaginable.  We can only know from experience, so there is so much we don’t know, so much undiscovered and uncertain.

10 years ago, I could have never imagined being a gym owner.  I could have never imagined all the things I’ve done in my life to date, so I know I have no clue what I will accomplish in the future.  This truth can be dizzying.

I set myself a vision.  A vision of solving problems, of being a contributor in my small community with the hopes that it has exponential effect into the world.  I’ve no idea how this vision will be accomplished.  What I do know is that with the vision, I can make decisions as opportunities arise to reach what I want.

So far this method has not failed me and I’m proud of my accomplishments and collaborations.

What you do today sets the tone for your future.

I’m looking to accomplish the impossible.  How about you?







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  1. Richard Wells says:

    I was sure 40 years old was an impossibility. I was equally convinced I’d die drunk. Two months after my 40th I sobered up. It’s 33 years later, I haven’t died, and I haven’t had a drink. The impossible is as near as the air, that means the possible is just as close.

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