It’s always so much easier to see things from the outside. It’s tremendously easier to tell a person what to do when you are removed from the moment by being on the outside.
Coaching others is enough to motivate me to keep sparring and learning about myself. Sparring reminds me how hard it is to implement what you want to do in the ring. There are so many factors. The other person could be faster, more powerful, craftier and possess many other skills that will contribute to you doubting your moves. You could be feeling energized, tired, distracted, or a host of other physical and emotional states.
A person on the outside of the ropes can see all the moves I can make, but I’m the one that has to pull the trigger, to take the risk, to let my guard down and let my hands go.
I spar, because it helps me to stay patient when I see my boxers resisting my instruction. They aren’t resisting me, or the words I’m saying. They are resisting the perceived consequences. They are resisting failing or feeling ineffective. Sometimes they are resisting success and having to back it up.
No matter what it is, it is their own resistance and they deserve a patient and steady corner helping them bridge that gap and find success through learning to risk failure.