I like to read a lot and get information from many sources. Technology has made it easy to receive e-mails, facebook posts, blogs and access to all kinds of perspectives. One source I like is called Lifehack. Today’s post is inspired from a Lifehack e-mail subscription I received…. http://tinyurl.com/l32ztgr
I’m not currently in a state of feeling like everything is going wrong, but I am in a state of feeling disconnected from my fire, my passion. It’s like I’ve been doused by a fire extinguisher. I don’t like this feeling much but it is very real right now. I like the Lifehack e-mail subscriptions, because they help me to get new perspective when I am stuck in a non moving perspective pattern.
When I slow down and look at what the past year has been like, and I look at what things are like right now, I realize how much I had been in survival mode and now I’m not. I didn’t know how I was going to put food on the table, where I was going to live, what I was going to do if I couldn’t get the gym open and could I deliver on promises I made. (promises mean everything to me….I don’t make them unless I plan on keeping them) That’s a lot of adrenaline and intensity pouring through the body on a daily basis. I must admit, I kind of liked it.
Now that the gym is open and I’m in a simple routine of showing up each day and doing the work, I’m not having a ton of adrenaline pouring through anymore. Adrenaline is rather addictive and when you are used to it, you want more of it and will do all kinds of things to get it. I realize this by listening to my thoughts and observing things that come up in my life. I want to create more out of simple situations- when really all there is to do is show up and do the work and see what happens. I’m no more in control now then I was over the past year, but somehow, adrenaline makes you feel like you are in control. Being dramatic and making more out of things makes you feel like you are “working” at something versus just simply working and being part of the flow of life.
How do I access my passion without all the dramatic survival mode situations? What IS passion? What perspectives will help keep me on track to grow gym membership and learn more about boxing so I can continue to grow my skills as well as others? What simple tasks should I do each day to facilitate this mindset?
I’ll start with #2 and #3 from today’s e-mail.
2. Some Things are Going Right
When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.
So, I start by looking at the success I have. I have a gym that is open and has members. We are doing slightly better than expected and introducing new people to boxing each week. The location of my gym is beautiful. I feel connected to a community and have access to a lot of people walking by daily. My boxing skills and the skills of my boxers and gym members are improving. I get to study boxing all the time. I have a job and own a business doing something I love. I get to be physical everyday at the same time I challenge my philosophical side.
3. I Have Some Control
One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.
When I find myself looking for dramatic situations, it’s often because I don’t feel in control and if I create a hectic situation- I feel comfortable managing it. Even though I’m not any more in control, I FEEL a false sense of security that I like. The most important thing is to remember what I preach- That is to increase handling staying uncomfortable. I do have control to make myself stay uncomfortable, feel awkward, out of control and ineffective versus creating havoc to feel on top of it all. I do have control over my attitude towards welcoming this discomfort and truly sitting in it.
Lastly- connect everything to boxing skill- relate your experience in life to something physical in the ring or training. See how both life and ring scenarios are the same.
For example: You are facing an opponent that is wild and crazy. A non stop puncher that doesn’t give you any space to breathe. You can give over to the adrenaline and stay in a state of panic with them and operate in survival mode or you can control your breathing and how calm you stay under their attacks. The more you can slow down your mind and your breath, the more relaxed your body will be and then instinct can take over. Openings will appear and you can let your hands go when you aren’t panicked. Stay Panicked and you will be blind, surviving and managing a hectic situation rather than embracing it and being part of the experience.